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Just some random thought on 2/25/2013

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018 You are what you think you are, you choose what you are by the thoughts you hold on to in life. Even though the opinions, actions and words of others can have some effect on your self-worth, in the end it is your choice to give any external source the power to do so. You are the only one who can make yourself or break yourself in the end. Once you learn that you are in control of how you interact with others and how you view yourself and the world around you, you start taking control away from the external forces and utilizing your own power to make change within your self.

Even though you are an individual and are in control of your own life, you must be aware that you are also a part of the family of man and even the family of all living creatures on earth. How you act, what you say, do and don’t do or say can effect other living things around you. Be individually creative but be aware of your connection with the rest of the world for no person is an island unto themselves.

Just some random thought on 2/25/2013

Ray Barbier

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You can always correct your course

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003So many times I allow my emotions to get the best of me and let them control my actions and thoughts. Emotions are very powerful but they do not have to have any affect on how we think and on our actions. The conscious mind is capable of putting emotion aside and letting logic and/or reason take over. Learning to turn off or putting aside ones own feelings for the common good isn’t an easy task but it is one that is possible and beneficial to both yourself and others. From my experience, when I allow emotions to be in charge I usually regret how I acted and become disappointed in myself for being someone I don’t enjoy being. When emotions are in control you are but reacting and have little choice. When you learn to control your emotions you become a person of action and reason. You have full control of how you interact and you become as a captain of a ship. Though storms may throw you off course you can always correct your course and sail to your chose destination.

 You can either be the product of the actions of others and your emotions or you can choose to be the product of your own choices and actions.

Ray Barbier

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Be careful of the advice you give

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002When you influence other people in a negative way you are partly responsible for any consequences your influence brought to said person. both you and the other person are responsible for any negative outcome, so be careful of the advice you give and be aware of the consequences of your actions.

So I say if you are to influence others do so in a good and positive way. Be an example for others to follow for how you act and react to the world is observed by those around you. So be always thoughtful about your words and actions.

I am who I am because of the choices I had made throughout my life. Each yes, no and maybe that I had said set in motion my destiny and helped form me into the person I am today. I am totally responsible for what I am today and I accept that fact. Knowing that I am the captain of my destiny empowers me to change course and find a new destiny and change who I am to be.

Ray Barbier

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My own self

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p10104 There has been times in my life I allowed my low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence to stop me from getting a good job or just getting a job done. The only thing that stood in my way of getting the job or doing the job was my own self. Like others I allowed my fears, insecurities and self-doubt to limit me and keep me from the possibilities that were before me. It is so easy to excuse your way through life, never to face change and never to leave your comfort zone. The cost of living in such a way in the end is quite high, you miss so much of life and you never get to experience life as the person you were born to be.

I have learned you can blame others for the bad things in your life all you want, but the truth is that you alone make the choices that creates what your life is like, going to change into and ultimately will become. It is your choice if you allow others to influence and/or control aspects of your life. Others only have the power that you allow them to have over you and your life.

tpl0008So it all boils down to what choices you make and what external influences you allow to play a part in your life. The choice is always yours, even when you choose to allow others to make a choice for you.

Your life is the sum of the experiences you have had and the choices you have both made and avoided.

Ray Barbier

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Random Saturday morning Thoughts -10/20/2012

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IMG_1389 Why are you so angry? Did someone hurt you so bad you can not let go of the hurt? Have you found yourself in a place in your life you feel like there is no hope and your lashing out at everyone else because you feel helpless? Do you feel like life is unfair and there is nothing you can do to be happy?

Forgive others, forgive yourself and let go of the pain within you so you can find peace and happiness. The anger you hold within is hurting you far worse than it is anyone else. Face the mistakes you have made and overlook the mistakes of others because we all make mistakes in life. Give up on the hopelessness you unintentionally cling to and embrace the possibilities and hope of the future. The past is gone, today is the canvas of tomorrow and you are the artist with the brush. Don’t give others the power to hold you back or hold you down, don’t allow others to affect your emotional or mental state anymore. Be positive for your self and towards others, get up and live life and stop wallowing in the shadows of yesterday.

The only one who can get you out of this negative mental state you’re in is yourself, it may take some hard choices but in the end everything will work out if you put your heart and mind into it.

 

Random Saturday morning Thoughts 10/20/2012

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So there is no rest for the mind, heart or for our weary soul.

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p10056Too much information coming at us all and you can tune in 24 hours a day to all the murder and mayhem. Some of it fact, some conjecture the rest is not much more than rumor. Dirty laundry of the famous, wars on distant shores and the world’s next worse scenario. Too much negativity, violence and tragedy for the human heart to hold. Our mind get stuck in the fight or flight mode and it fills with fear of a possible disaster both far away and near. All of our technology makes us all like next door neighbors and brings us news instantly from across the globe. Too much, too fast and too often is the onslaught of the cold hand of reality and the bad news it brings. So there is no rest for the mind, heart or for our weary soul. We should just turn off the information flow and be happy, but we are way to addicted to it all. We love the adrenalin rush and the feeling of power we get from knowing of all the news and information flowing across our electronic universe.

tpl_7_ppl We are addicted to all the stimulation we get from television and we are heavily influenced  by the multitude of messages that they bring. We live in a generation of fear and we are paying for that mentally and physically. Independent thought is becoming a rare thing because we can’t escape the opinions we hear all day long. If you hear something said enough times you sometimes begin to agree with it or at least accept it. I love my electronics as much as the next guy and feel they are an asset to our species if we don’t forget to be human. We just need to turn them all off once in a while and just be human.  We need to interact with each other face to face, we need to have time to think our own thoughts and opinions as well.

Too much, too fast is too hard on our whole being. Take a break and breathe, enjoy the simpler things in life once in a while. Let your mind wander and let your imagination grow.
Ray Barbier

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Your greatest teacher is your own self

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bnf0427 I am no wise man,saint or anyone beyond average, I only write out of my heart and because of my joy in writing itself. I don’t claim to be an expert nor that I am even remotely close to be right. I only claim what I write is what I feel and think to be true. Think for yourself, be yourself and don’t follow, lead. Be wise enough to know that your greatest teacher is your own self.

Be true to yourself and your feelings, be either a leader or a self guided force in life. Let no man or woman mislead or distract you from your chosen path.
Ray Barbier

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Live in the now, in the present and put the past behind you

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018What might have been, what could be, what if I did it different, what if I am wrong? All these doubtful thoughts only keep you from living the life you have chosen and the life you are blessed with. You can not change the past so the what if’s are useless in the end. If you question your every choice you never stand a chance to experience the results of those choices. You will be consumed by the doubt and the fear you chose wrongly. If you chose right or wrong will eventually be revealed to you so don’t worry so much about it and try to enjoy the moment you live in. Stop living in memories and the possibilities of the past that no longer exist. Live in the now, in the present and put the past behind you as well as your fear of the future. What has happened has come and past as what will happen is going to happen when its time. Spend more time seizing the moment instead of regretting past mistakes or fearing future mishaps.

Now is the greatest time in your life, yesterday is a memory that you should put away and tomorrow is something you should let come in its own time. So live in the now and celebrate it for its called the present because it’s a gift to us all.
Ray Barbier

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Groggy thoughts before coffee… lol

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Sometimes I can stare at the screen for hours and my mind stays blank, sometimes thoughts come flowing out like a river. Sometimes there is no one who can stop my serenity and other times the littlest thing can cause me to explode. Some days I am fearful and other there is no fear within me. In the end regardless of what emotion goes rampant in my head the logical and reasonable mind kicks in and restores the peace. The battle between reason, logic and emotions is one that has raged on since my birth, The mind usually wins but sometimes emotions become too powerful to contain. Maintaining a balance of the mind and heart is essential to a healthy life, yet its one of the hardest things to do at times. Writing blog posts is one of the ways I try to keep balance and seems to be quite therapeutic in the end. It helps me express my opinions, emotions and the real me few ever get to know.

If my blogs ever get popular or not isn’t something I worry too much about since they are already successful in the fact they have helped me be who I really am. Hopefully it has at least sparked a few ideas in others if not gave them some entertainment. Random as my thoughts are and as unstructured my writing style is, the blogs continue to grow in traffic.

 

Raymond Barbier

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Change, acceptance and fear

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003 Since the time we are born we sought out the approval of our family and peers, the path of life we choose to follow is heavily influenced by the opinions and attitudes of our family unit and our peers at school or work. Even though we are solitary beings in thought we tend to become attached to the ideals and values of those we are closest to. Of course we have our own personal spin on those values and ideas but the core of them were taken from the close circle of influence we have.  Good thing about human beings is they can change their core beliefs mid stream and change their direction if not their whole life path. Usually the older we get the less we look to others for approval and or acceptance and learn to be more independent in our views. Still the base core of the beliefs we had in our youth influences our lives. The dependence on the acceptance of a social group and or their approval can limit us from reaching our full potential . We wind up spending too much energy trying to make everyone around us happy as well as trying to gain their acceptance. A lot of us waste too much time trying to figure out why we are not accepted, liked or successful. We tend to believe  since we are not liked or accepted that we are either broken or something must be wrong with us. There is nothing wrong or broken within us, and usually we are more accepted and liked than we tend to perceive. Our fear and negative thoughts are blinding us to the truth that everyone is imperfect and that each one of us are both accepted and rejected by the world around us. Even the most popular people in society have those who dislike them and don’t accept them into their social groups.

I believe that we all must learn not to put so much time and energy into being accepted or liked and focus more on being the best person we can be. No matter what cards fate has dealt you in life you have the potential to be happy as well as the ability to change the things in your life that you don’t like.  Change of course is not an easy thing because the first thing you have to do is change your own mindset, you have to let go of the thoughts that make you believe your stuck or unable to progress beyond your current position in life. That is one of the hardest demons to wrestle with and usually it will not surrender easily. Once that is out of your way you just have to take the first step towards your new life. You will face obstacles and even have some set backs but you will make it to the destination if you keep determined. Self growth and self-improvement is a personal experience and there is no one out there other than yourself that can change the person you are or decide where your going in life. Others can only aid you or try to slow you down but that is all they are able to do. Don’t worry about acceptance and or social status, don’t make life too complicated and be true to yourself. Be who you are and shed the shackles of self-doubt and live for the moment as your true self.

 

 

 

 

The first step towards happiness is Self Acceptance.

Raymond Barbier

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