True Self, Self Esteem and The Many Roadblocks

100_0063  Returning to the core of your true self is a slow and enlightening journey. You have to peel away the layers of your mental armor you collected through the years. The True self is buried beneath years of good and bad experiences along with many layers of the subconscious. Every Experience we have changes our perception on life as well as change our way of interacting with life. Some perceptions are correct others are distortions of the truth created by a negative and even sometimes positive circumstance we experienced. Our brain automatically creates its own defense mechanisms to protect us from things it at the time sees as threatening or harmful.This for the most part is a good  thing but when it keeps the defenses in beyond the time of need it can become a barrier between you and your happiness. 

Sometimes I think our brain needs a reset button or ctrl-alt-del keys, a reboot of ourselves to the basic core of who we are would be good from time to time. I guess our brain becomes cluttered with old and useless thoughts and memories that do nothing but become rod blocks to moving forward in life. Remembering the past is good for it gives you a reference point as well as examples of both good choices and wrong ones. You experiences of the past are great teachers but are not meant to be anything much more than that. Living in the past is not a good thing for it keeps your mind from focusing on the things at hand. For today is the most important time in your life, not yesterday or even tomorrow holds more importance than today. Learn from the past, Live for today and be open to all the possibilities of tomorrow.

Sift, sort and peel away the layers until you find the real you deep within. Be yourself and do not allow anyone or anything to change who you are. We all are unique, being who we are and striving to achieve our true potential is one of the key goals of life. There are many opposing forces out there that will try and keep you from that goal, they are there not to stop you but to challenge you. They are roadblocks set there for you to overcome and to help strengthen your core character. Once you realize that you are capable of overcoming the roadblocks in your life they become a little less scary to face. One of the biggest challenges to face I have found to be hard is to face is self doubt. If you have little if no confidence in yourself it makes dealing with the challenges of life very difficult and sometimes almost impossible to overcome.

Having low self-esteem is a very difficult roadblock to overcome, being the enemy here is your own self it makes it a difficult battle for sure. The thing is, you are the only one who can heal the wounds that help create the low self-esteem and you are the only one holding on to the things that fuel such a negative self image. Others may have contributed to building this roadblock but only you can be the demolition crew that can destroy it in the end. Meditating on the serenity prayer can help a lot when dealing with low self-esteem, for it helps you realize there are things you can change and others you can not.


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.


Keep Faith in God, Have faith in yourself and walk with love as your guide.

Raymond Barbier


Thoughts for a Happy New Year

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With the new year just around the corner it is time to look back on the years past.

Look back on the things that were temporary and those that were meant to last.

Remember both the good and bad that had crossed your path though the year.

Reflect upon all the lessons learned and be positive while overcoming you fear.

Put the past behind you and look forward to what is yet to come your way.

Live for the moment and seize the moment while living fully for today.

Forgive and forget so you can move on into the future burden free.

Be yourself and embrace the full potential of who you are meant to be.

I wish everyone a Happy and Prosperous New year

Raymond Barbier

Happy Holidays

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Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas and To all a Wonderful New Year

Be Yourself

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Be Yourself, Never allow the opinions of others change who you really are. Each one of us are unique individuals and each of us have our own special way of interacting with life. Our uniqueness is what makes us human beings a creative species. Who you are is who you were meant to be, no matter what the society, government or religious institutions believe. We have flaws and we have blessings, that is what being human is all about.

Why try and change yourself to fit in what they call the social norm when who and what you are is far more special and unique than to be a uniform drone of society. Too many times I watched the bullies of the so called in crowed push down the unique and good people who where not social conformers. Too many times I watched some of the nicest people I’ve known be bullied until they repressed their true selves or felt they were inadequate and useless.

Some of them survived and thrived as time went on others had their futures squashed by low self esteem and poor self image created by society. If society does not like who I am it can go on without me, I will not try and conform to what their ideal person is supposed to be. In history if you look close it was the ones who were outside societies norm that made the great inventions and discoveries. They chose to walk their own path and discarded any social pressure to conform. This made them free to reach their full potential and bring some of the greatest world changing discoveries and inventions.

Peace to all and to all a Merry Christmas

Raymond Barbier